Prepping All For None And One For All
Do you have a reluctant prepper family? I know I do. When I first started prepping I wrongly assumed my family would jump on board realizing the benefits of becoming preppers. Willingly joining me in my pursuit of being prepared for all survival scenarios that may come our way.
So as you can probably imagine I was kinda off bewildered when I realized what I thought would be an all for one and one for all situation from outset. Turned out to be the exact opposite, instead, it became a case of all for none and one for all. Meaning I was now going to have to prep for my reluctant prepper family because they were not one bit interested.
I remember my wife saying if the SHTF she would rather be dead. My teenage daughter laughing at me calling me a weirdo. Being the individual that I am these comments didn’t deter me and only strengthened my resolve to pursue what I believed to be the right course of action. So I began to prepare for my whole family.
It crossed my mind however that surely I can’t be the only prepper out there who has a reluctant prepper family. So I had the idea of writing this article to discuss in more detail the reasons behind this initial response from members of my family. I also wanted to relay some ideas on how to go about changing people’s outlook. Ultimately in the hope of getting them on board with the benefits of emergency preparedness planning.
Reluctant Prepper Family Psychology
Often the Psychology and reasoning behind why family members do not see any benefit in prepping or want to become preppers can vary. Whilst not an exhaustive list here are some of my thoughts on the more common reasons:
Normalcy Bias, sometimes known as Normality Bias is a state of mind that some people have when they think about the reality of facing an emergency or disaster situation. This causes people to underestimate the possibility of a disaster occurring and its possible effects. In their minds, they believe that things will always function the way things normally function. This is one of the reasons these people fail to adequately prepare for disaster.
I Would Rather Be Dead
Another reason family members may not want to get involved in prepping is that they genuinely believe they would rather die than survive. For example in the event of a nuclear attack or total break down of civilization in their eyes there would be no point to living. They have no wish to survive, now whilst to some of us this may sound like a rather selfish outlook especially when you have a family. It’s important to respect this opinion if that’s the way they genuinely feel. In time they may come around to the idea that life can go on as it has for thousands of years.
Good Old Fashion Laziness
Sorry but it has to be said that sometimes people are just plain lazy in their outlook to emergency preparedness. They believe that they don’t have to worry about being prepared because firstly it may never happen. Secondly, they feel if the time comes when an emergency or disaster strikes they will be OK. They believe that someone else will take care of matters. I’m not sure that you can ever change a true lazy persons outlook on these matters.
Fear of Disaster
My main profession is that of a Will Writer and the burning question for Will Writers is. Why hasn’t everyone made a Will?. Often the answer to this is fear, people don’t like to think about dying. So they put it to the back of their minds and never get round to doing it. This is in almost every case detrimental to their families when they pass away.
Sometimes the reasons for not wanting to prepare themselves for a disaster situation is exactly the same. They can’t bear to think about any doom and gloom aspects of life and instantly put it to the back of their minds in the hope that it will never happen to them.
This outlook is as they say a case of digging your head in the sand. You can turn the news channels off to your heart’s content. In my opinion, there is no escaping the disasters that appear to be occurring more frequently than ever. The human race also seems to be intent on destroying itself. I quote the current North Korean situation as a prime example of this.
Family Budget Concerns
Sometimes family members can have concerns with regards to the financial strain that prepping could cause on the family budget. Nowadays a lot of us struggle to make ends meet at the best of times. The additional cost of prepping equipment and supplies could be seen as a negative factor when it comes to embracing emergency preparedness.
Changing the Family’s Perspective
In the section above I discussed what I feel may be the reasoning behind why we may encounter a reluctant prepper family. Lets now take a look at how some of these reasons can be approached:
Normalcy Bias Response
This is somewhat difficult to respond to because normalcy bias is an embedded subconscious reaction to survival situations. In my opinion, the best way to approach this is to discuss the subject of disasters and survival planning gradually over a period of time. For example, your watching the news one evening with your partner whilst a number of disasters are being reported. Take this opportunity to openly discuss your reasons for prepping in relation to what you would do if you were facing the disaster that is being reported.
I Would Rather Be Dead Response
It’s important to discuss with family members that prepping is not always about preparing for a SHTF doomsday scenario. There are many other situations for example power outages, floods and other scenarios that you would be able to recover from and resume your normal everyday life.
Good Old Fashion Laziness Response
This is probably one of the most difficult reasons to reverse. This is because is someone is inherently lazy they will probably carry this attitude and approach across all areas of their life. This being said it’s worth pointing out that with family comes responsibility. If everyone had this outlook no one would survive.
Fear of Disaster Response
Try to point out to family members that being prepared for a disaster or survival scenario is better than not being prepared and then wishing you had. Preparing in advance for such situations will also help to dull the fear because they will have the confidence that they are better equipped to deal with an emergency situation.
Family Budget Concerns Response
Whilst stretching the family budget in this day and age is a genuine concern. With some careful planning and a common sense approach to prepping they will come to realize the following:
- Often a lot of the gear and supplies needed are already lying around the home.
- There are prepping projects that can be researched and made a reality for little cost.
- Knowledge of what to do and when to do it is just as important as gear and supplies. Thanks to the internet and the prepper community the majority of it is free.
Trying to change the point of view of your reluctant prepper family members should never be attempted in an overbearing fashion. If you take this approach you will probably only strengthen that persons resolve to stick to their original beliefs. Indirect is better than direct when it comes to these discussions it’s all about being subtle.
I hope you enjoyed my insight and opinions on the topic of the reluctant prepper family. From a personal standpoint, I’m pleased to say that my family is now gradually coming round to the reasons and benefits of becoming survival ready. This has largely been due to the sheer number of natural disasters and also terror attacks that have recently been reported. If you have now or have in the past any experiences of a reluctant prepper family yourself. Feel free to add your feedback and suggestions in the comments section below.